How can Parishes help?
Everyone has times when they feel a bit down or fed up, or life may feel too busy and stressful. However, when these feelings persist and continue for some time, this may indicate an underlying mental health problem. Often it will be those closest to the person who may notice a significant change in behaviour or mood. Some of the more obvious signs may include frequently feeling tired or in pain, a change in how drugs or alcohol are used, lack of confidence, poor morale.
What Parishes Can Do
• Consider what support systems can be offered. For example: friendship, practical help and information about local agencies. Many people with mental health problems withdraw from life. Encouraging them to talk things over or to get out may offer them a change of perspective or environment and help them reconnect with daily life. It is also important to respect that the person may prefer time to be on their own and may need space and privacy.
• Be aware of other sources of professional help and support in the area, and encourage them to access these.
• Be alert to signs of distress but do not try to diagnose or attempt to treat the problem.
• Active Listening. Active listening is a skill all can learn and apply. The Acorn Listening course is recommended for Christian listeners. For more information visit www.acornchristian.org
When Someone Becomes Distressed
• Ask the person how you can help and what they would find useful. Do not assume they want to talk to someone, they may prefer time to be alone.
• Ask if there is anyone they would like to be contacted, for example a family member or close friend.
• Make space for them to express emotions or let off steam in private if necessary.
• Discuss with them the possibility of seeking professional help. Encourage them to get help from their GP or other health professional.
• Offer to accompany the person to their GP/health professional if appropriate.
• Contact Jane Knight at the Diocesan Counselling Service for further advice and support.
• Rarely, someone may be in crisis. If this happens, contact the person of their choice or contact the emergency services/A & E at hospital or encourage them to see their GP.